Psychology Options

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Self Help For Depression
Tips For Dealing With Depression

1.THINKING POSITIVE LY
To Change Your Internal Dialogue

You are your thoughts.

Your perception of yourself and the world around you shapes the way you feel and how you relate to other people and events.

And your perception of yourself and the world is shaped by your thoughts.

Your thoughts affect whether you feel relaxed or worried, calm, stressed or depressed.

In essence, your internal dialogue is VERY powerful and really can influence your health.

"You don't have to control your thoughts; you just have to stop letting them control you."

-- Dan Millman --

So THINKING POSITIVE LY is crucial in dealing with your health, CFS, FMS or depression...

It's vital to your well-being that your inner thoughts are positive and healthy.

Makes sense right? Well, now check out the following shocking fact…

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Idol good notes( made by u???)

these are small things which we usually tend to neglect...but these are of importance.

A small note on counsellors

A counsellor is very cool headed person....... jiski understanding kaafi achi hoti hai problems ki....specially human psychology ko.For psychological problems many counseller are availble....marriage, alchol, studies, youth problems, jobs , career etc

agar by luck u manage to get a "TRUSTABLE" counseller u are v lucky. We can discuss every thing with them like our problems..our mood swings, or any other pvt problems.

When we were kids we used to discuss our probs wth our parents..later with frds or partners. but not all are lucky . some times u dont find a suitable understanding person who can guide us in our problems ....thats where counsellers come into picture.

Taking help of a Understanding counseller with whom we dont have any emotional relation helps a lot. he/she can pinpoint our mistakes or cause of problems. which many times we wont like to admit with our close ones.

counselling is not always related with psychaitric problem. Counselling iss just abt anylysing and sharing our problem with a professional , who can guide us better. If we are discussing our problems with our frds, close ones..its exactly like counselling.( so we do take help from relatives/frds who counsel us)

so whenever if u feel like having some problem....DONT EVER hesitate to take help of counseller. only condition IMO is that that person shd be trustable.

These were my views..lack clarity so for further expert views u can contact any counsellors available.

Ek survey ki hisaab se majority of us need counselling help many times in life.( it can be for any thing..)

Few net links.........:

http://www.counseling.org/


http://www.counseling.mtu.edu/PersonalCounseling.htm

few counseling links

http://www.counselloronline.ca/process.htm


jaisa gautam budha keh gaye hai....." its all in mind" ..so bacha keep ur self health. .

healthy mind healthy body


Open to corrections


god bless

Sonu

PS : Idol ji.....gustakhi maaf.... abt ur signature lines..:...thodi philosphical hai.....but not incouraging. every one knows ...we wer born and willl die 1day.........but no ones wants to be reminded again and again abt this...??? . agar bura na maane to plz do change it.

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dear sonu,



thanks for participating and liking this thread...........i'm glad a good and active person is involved here............yes, i wrote those notes.........i gave information about my notes too..........that this might be based on my experience or on studies from Persian books........



about signature..........unfortunately, i am not able to change it for a while................whatever i make in my surrouding ,it has somethin to do with my own life.....................this signature , encourages me(however, u found it discouraging )...........this is the outline of life.........in case u ( me )get too drowned in material world.........seein this gives a big relief......sakoon milta hain....on the other hand, i am at the peak of my education (between university and college) ...........word "success" pushes me forward.............because here, it came 2nd in life's potential steps.........i'm sorry if this signature is not pleasing u..........u may ignore it untill i am done with my finals.............sorry for inconvience

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one thing more..........i guess it is not too discouraging.......let me explain what i mean here



Word ...........................Meaning ................................................Conclusion



God.....(the creator, ur ever lasting friend, the beginnin of circle) .....friendship, love (+)

Birth....(orginating, starting an adventure) ....................................Spring, Start (+)

Success( achieving dreams)...................................................... hope, challenge (+)

Old age (a review of past, a chance to seek forgiveness) ..............wisdom,ripen, complete (+)

Death...(new journey out of material life) ....................................dignity,truth unity (+)

God.....(the creator, the ever lasting friend, the end of circle) ........relief, satisfiction, freedom(+)



the effects:



word god, stregthens ur faith, and doesn't let u to get lost in world

word birth, gives u a reminder , dun waste ur time

success, tells u why do u have to live

old age, tells u a big time to seek forgiveness

death, start of a big journey, a trip towards the truth, and ur origin

God, the end of the trip and companionship of the ever lasting friend, while family, loved ones, friends leave u one day, BUT he is always there



Note: never be scared of death, it's not an end, it's a beginning

Islamic quote: Prophet Mohd, PBUH has said, frequently visit graveyard, this will stregthen ur faith and evil cannot get successed on u.

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Make the Most of Your Social Circle
Research shows that healthy and supportive relationships can reduce stress and improve your overall health and sense of wellbeing. However, all relationships are not equally supportive. Building a network of supportive friends, or even just one supportive relationship, can be vital to your wellbeing, here are some key skills that can help you to build relationships with people that are truly supportive and sustaining, that will bring great benefits to you and your friends.

Meeting People- The more people you have in your life, the more likely you are to have truly supportive relationships with at least one of them. It's beneficial to be able to regularly add new people to your circle. Here are some good ways to meet people, and some tips to remember when making a new friend.



Time Management- It's important to make time to nurture relationships, and to go out and have fun with friends. You may feel like you just don't have time to spend on this, but time management and organization techniques can help you find more time in your life to spend on friendships. These techniques can also help you to show up on time, remember birthdays and other important events, help friends when they're in need, and do other things that will strengthen friendships and make them supportive.

Assertiveness- People often think of assertiveness as 'standing up for yourself' and 'not letting people push you around'—basically the alternative to passivity. While this is mostly true, assertiveness is also the alternative to aggressiveness, a way of handling people where you get your needs met at the expense of others' needs. Developing the skill of assertiveness can really help you strengthen your relationships, making them mutually supportive, lasting and opening the lines of communication.

Listening to Your Friends- When we've had a hard day, sometimes being able to talk to a friend about our feelings is all it takes to turn things around and turn stress into a feeling of connection and well-being. Being truly listened to and understood can have profound effects on us. When dealing with friends, it's important to give as well as receive this supportive type of listening when support is truly needed. Here are some things to remember when friends are taling about things that stress or upset them:

• Ask them about their feelings, and listen.
• Reflect back what you hear, so they know you really understand.
• Instead of always trying to tie the conversation back to your experiences, focus questions on them and their feelings.
• When they're talking, are you missing some of what they say because you're waiting for them to stop talking so you can say what you want to say next? Stop, and really listen to them.

Learn more about how to be a good listener, a very important skill to have.



Listening to Your Intuition- Some people give off positive energy that makes us feel good, and others give off negative energy that drains us. If you pay attention to the signals that your intuition sends you, and act on those signals, you'll have a healthier social circle. Here are some questions to ask yourself:

• Does the conversation flow easily, or is it forced?
• Do you feel they truly understand, accept and support you?
• Do you feel you truly understand, accept and support them?
• Do you feel better or worse about yourself when you're with them?
• Do you leave them feeling energized or mildly depressed?
• Do you include them in your life for positive qualities they have, or just to have more people in your life?

The answers to these questions, and what you can learn from this quiz will help you begin to develop your intuition, which will help you strengthen your relationships, or help you with...



Letting Go- Not everyone is an appropriate match. If there's someone in your life who makes you feel bad about yourself, doesn't share any of your interests or values, or is someone that you just don't mesh well with, it's perfectly acceptable to put that relationship on the back burner, let it fade away altogether, or not develop it in the first place. Even if you were at one time very close, people change and grow in different directions. It doesn't mean there's something 'wrong' with either of you, but if someone in your life is no longer good for you, it's perfectly acceptable to let them go. (Conversely, if you'd like to keep them in your life out of loyalty, albeit in a periphery role, that's okay, too. However, it would be beneficial to remember not to count on them for support, if they're not able to give it to you.) Only you know if the relationshipo is worth keeping or not, but it's important to have several people you can count on for support in your life. It takes some work, but cultivating a circle of truly supportive friendships can make a huge difference in how you handle stress and how you handle life.